Girlfriend or Boyfriend? I want them all! What should I do?

By: Napaporn Trivitvareekul


Hi-Lights :

  • The research result from PayScale website shown that based on a survey of 42,000 office workers, only 6% that got married with their colleague and 15% also admitted that they used to date with their colleague. And for person with age above 30 years old, 84% is open to go out with their colleague.
  • True love does not rely on what gender you are, but it is about who you fall in love with and does it hurt someone else. Do you think that love that starts from a mistake or unfaithful will become a good one? Stealing him from someone may cause you also end up being stolen by someone else.


Q: I have a question that I have been in this secret relationship at the office for 4-5 months, but he has a boyfriend. I tried to break up with him, but I could not. He told me to wait for him. I want to but his action seems to show that he is still in love with his boyfriend. Should I wait?


A: I once read about the research result from PayScale website shown that based on a survey of 42,000 office workers, only 6% that got married with their colleague and 15% also admitted that they used to date with their colleague. And for a person with age above 30 years old, 84% is open to go out with their colleagues.


Actually, this is not a surprise issue because we spend almost three-quarters of a day in the office. It is okay if you are dating while having conscious. You may have found the love of your life and the more you meet and longer dating, the more you will fall in love. Otherwise, you may find the one that makes you lonelier and more hurt because he/she is not the one. Anyway, loving someone means you have to be prepared for any uncertainty. At least you will not be too rush and you can fully take care of each other while time is still yours. However, preparing is a must! Loving in the office is the hardest because when it comes to an end, you have to be recovered soon enough to move on. 

In this case, he wants both girlfriend and boyfriend. What a lucky man! However, I will not tell you what the right choice is, but this is cheating, no matter what gender he is. He has a boyfriend and you who is waiting for his spare time. Let’s ask yourself how sad you will be if there is someone also waiting for your boyfriend’s love. 


“He told me to wait”. Have you ever asked yourself, what are you waiting for? Will he change his mind? Will his boyfriend be bored with him? Will he stop loving man? Or when will you stop obsessing with him?


True love does not rely on what gender you are, but it is about who you fall in love with and does it hurt someone else. Do you think that love that starts from a mistake or unfaithful will become a good one? Stealing him from someone may cause you also end up being stolen by someone else.


You are not in a relationship that long, so it is easier to stop now. Let’s ask yourself, “Am I not that worth to wait for someone who loves only me but along with someone else?” As you can see from this point that he is still in love with his boyfriend while you are floating around and waiting for his love. Isn’t your heart worth more than that? 


It is not okay to have one boyfriend and an additional one girlfriend at the same time. No matter what gender is, they can be hurt. Do not be so selfish and do not care about anyone.


Cheating is one of the main problems in this era. It may not look wrong because many are cheating but it does not mean it is good. Waiting for someone to break up with his/her boyfriend makes you feel worse. Honest love is better and you should ask yourself that is it worth waiting for someone who could not be honest with their boyfriend/girlfriend?


Better ask yourself.